Life After Menopause

Why Men’s Emotional Immaturity Causes More Problems As We Grow Older

It's no secret that men are often emotionally immature and it can be a huge source of frustration and resentment - and the major cause for separation - for their partners.

Emotional immaturity in a partner can lead to unhealthy relationships, lack of communication and trust, and ultimately, an inability to build meaningful connections.

Whether it's a lack of emotional intelligence or an inability to express feelings, emotional immaturity can have a huge impact on relationships. 

Unfortunately, because of this immaturity, many women end up acting as a parent to their partners and taking on the responsibility for their behaviour and acting as their moral compass. Whilst it might work in the short term, it's like having to be permanently responsible for 3 year old who's never going to grow up. 

And it's exhausting.

Listen to this episode and let me know your thoughts.

Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep182

How ”You’re Doing It Wrong!” Affects Us In Midlife

Basically, regardless of where it's coming from - ourselves or others - invalidation is a form of emotional abuse. Invalidation can be subtle or overt, but it always has the same effect: to make us feel small and insignificant.
 
We all have opinions (some of them are definitely Opinions) and we're all entitled to them. But a lifetime of being told that you're wrong, either in overt ways such as someone saying "That's not right!" or in more subtle ways such as dismissing or ignoring something you just said, has a huge impact on us over time.

Invalidation is a when someone denies or rejects our feelings, thoughts, and experiences and most women have been on the receiving end of that their whole lives. Invalidation makes us feel less worthy or valuable and over time, we can find that the ones invalidating us is ourselves.

Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep181

Becoming a Mother at 57 years old with Barb Higgins

I found it physically and emotionally challenging when I had my fourth child when I was 40, but having a third child aged 57, I just cannot imagine. But that's what Barb Higgins did.

A few years ago, Barb's teenaged daughter died suddenly from an undiagnosed brain tumour, then Barb's husband became very ill with renal failure and kidney disease. We all grieve and recover from grief in different ways, it's not a journey that is the same for anyone.

After being incapacitated by grief for several years, Barb sought counselling and eventually, she and her husband, Kenny, decided that having another baby was something that was the right thing for them to do, something that would complete their family.

Listen to this inspirational story of unimaginable heartbreak, stress and joy. 

https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep180 

How to Overcome Your Fear of Confrontation

The Merriam Webster Dictionary says,  "The English language has many fine words for “coward”... However, fine though they may be, none of these words have the evocative power that comes from compounding quake and buttock."

Like many of us, particularly women, I am a quakebuttock when it comes to prolonged confrontation. 

But there are quite a lot of things that are great about getting older and one of them is you're quite clear about your boundaries...

And you're much less worried about upsetting people when they overstep those boundaries

In today's episode, we discuss how to face your fears and head into confrontations without allowing fear to stop you from achieving success.

    Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep179

How To Deal With Toxic Behaviour with Professor Frances Kay-Lambkin, Psychologist

Anxious feelings can be hard to process and understand but when we ignore them, they can manifest in unexpected ways.
Depression, sleeplessness and nervousness about our daily lives are the usual things we associate with anxiety, but things like being closed minded, needing to get things right and even gaslighting can all be indicators of high levels of anxiety.

Professor Frances Kay-Lambkin explains the many aspect of anxiety to help you understand what could be going on and provide tips on how to manage it.

Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep178

 

How To Get Off The Midlife Emotional Roller Coaster | Separation and Moving house

When we're going through a highly emotional and stressful time (such as separating from our partner and/or moving home... maybe both at the same time), it's so easy to feel like we're on an emotional roller coaster.

But what if you just can't afford to be on that roller coaster because there's just too much at stake and too many things that need doing?

When you listen to your emotions, rather than letting them control you, you can begin to see how they are influencing your decisions. If you're ready to get off the emotional roller coaster, listen to this episode!

    Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep177 

Midlife Reckoning: Do You Take Time Out Of Your Relationship? Or Do You Just Head Straight For Divorce?

When you've been in a relationship for a very long time, it can get to the stage where you and your partner are just your irritations, resentments, and complaints when you're interacting with each other.

The days where you were so in love that you listened to them as someone who is basically amazing are long gone. How do you get back to that (assuming that you want to)? CAN you get that back?

 

    Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep176 

How To Alleviate The Symptoms of Menopause & Peri-Menopause with Liza Baker

Menopause and Perimenopause are so much more than just physical changes. Nutrition can have a huge impact on the way you experience this journey.

A balanced diet can alleviate many symptoms, making this a smoother transition. ⁣⁣Discover how proper nutrition during perimenopause can help reduce your risk of developing common health problems like heart disease, obesity, and diabetes. 

Liza Baker, nutritionist and campaigner, explains the huge and mostly unacknowledged impact of poor nutrition and generally not looking after ourselves because we're too busy. This is not to be missed.

 

    Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep175

The Truth About Trauma And Addiction with Dr Alice Kerby

Trauma is not necessarily just one big, overwhelming event. It can also be the result of ongoing stress and anxiety. And any kind of trauma can lead to addiction, which is why it's important to recognize the signs and symptoms of trauma in order to prevent it from leading to more serious problems.

The good news is that recognizing the signs of traumatic experiences can help us take steps towards healing before addiction takes hold. 

Join me in conversation with trauma and addiction expert & recovery coach, Dr Alice Kerby, as we look at causes, symptoms and support for the kind of lifestyle many of us live today.

Web page: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep174

Why we’re more than just what we eat with nutritionist Sally Imeson

Eating right is important – but it’s far from the only way to take care of ourselves. It’s about building healthy habits and creating positive changes in our life. It's about understanding what works best for you in terms of nutrition and exercise, but also recognizing the importance of finding balance in all aspects of life. 

Self care isn't just about eating well - it's about nourishing your whole self.

Join me in conversation with nutritionist Sally Imeson as we talk about the impact of not looking after ourselves properly.

Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep173